Betrothed ??
Just saw in news that a man ran a motor car (thrice !!!) over his fiancé.
According to her, he asked her to prove that filmi dialog “Mai tumhare liye apani jaan bhi de sakati hu” (I can die for you). She was asked to lie down in front of his car and that man ran his car over her till she pretended to be dead.
This is just one of such instants; there is one in each house.
Betrayal is not a new story but the way betrayer treats… just think, guy bringing you flowers, chocolates and perfumes. Flatters you and the very next day….. he says its not working between us…. Or a girl saying “I can leave my family for you” and the very next day you see her tying knots with a man of her parents’ choice.
How to trust ?
Break-up happens but the way its done has so deep impact on both the partners.
It seems so difficult (almost impossible) to fulfill the dream called “live happily ever-after”.
According to her, he asked her to prove that filmi dialog “Mai tumhare liye apani jaan bhi de sakati hu” (I can die for you). She was asked to lie down in front of his car and that man ran his car over her till she pretended to be dead.
This is just one of such instants; there is one in each house.
Betrayal is not a new story but the way betrayer treats… just think, guy bringing you flowers, chocolates and perfumes. Flatters you and the very next day….. he says its not working between us…. Or a girl saying “I can leave my family for you” and the very next day you see her tying knots with a man of her parents’ choice.
How to trust ?
Break-up happens but the way its done has so deep impact on both the partners.
It seems so difficult (almost impossible) to fulfill the dream called “live happily ever-after”.
posted by Jenifer | 6:00 PM
11 Comments:
I fear you are not expressing your own sentiments:-(.
We all know - those have most power to hurt us, that we love.
Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don't know how to replenish it's source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of withering, of tarnishing.
True love never "lives happily ever after" - true love has no ending.
Hey that's life! but a couple of points:
one: there is no ever-after
two: nobody else decides if you are happy/sad/whatever.
Something happened, you chose to be sad abt it. You could very well chose not to be.
I totally agree with you on the getting deeply hurt part. In the current times, trust is as disposable as a plastic coffee cup and love as volatile as the coffee aroma. But I think a break-up is much better than a betrayal which may be hiding behind a 'living happily' scene. If it is not working out, great! Cry over it, regret it, but you have a chance to come out of it. But another more hideous form of it is being betrayed without even knowing about it. The guy who calls it quits after giving flowers for a day is better than the one who keeps giving you flowers for the rest of your life and keeps giving his loyalties elsewhere. What say?
Jambooree Dada,
“Nobody else decides if you are happy/sad/whatever”… Yup. But if we are emotionally attached to them, their deeds do decide our mood. Yes we can ofcourse recover after some time but I think the process is very painful, you are hurt and sometimes cheated too!! You have to be a robot to just let go of all emotions as soon as you break up.
Pandit,
Completely agreed !!. Getting cheated is the worst thing to happen. Breaking up, its always better to have it from the horse’s mouth before he/she start hunting someone else.
Hi,
I wanted to put in my comments here, but I had so many thoughts, I just posted a blog instead of that. I feel most of the time the betrayal happens because of the failure to recognize a person. In some cases a person 'feels' betrayed because of the his/her expecations from the other person.
Look into my blog at www.endless-mind.blogspot.com
Betrayals do happen in life..there are a lot of times when U betray yourself..But U come out of it gleefully stating, 'its a honest mistake..and I learn from mistakes'.. Why can't that same chance be given to the "so-called betrayer"...Just like the Endless mind writes in his post..its a need-based world.That doesn't mean that I claim U can go around betraying people or getting betrayed. What I am trying to enunciate is that, betraying do happen and we learn from it and move on...No point brooding over it..U brood over it U are the loser.
U buy a dress U 'loved', U take it home and try it on only to be disappointed to find its doesn't fit U..U don't stop wearing dress with the fear of none of them fitting you. The juxtaposition between life and dress is clearly hypothetical.. claims would be that U can always try on the dress before buying it. Obviously, that cannot be the case with life..neither can U try on anything in life nor can U buy it.. The point here is the "human mind'" has the capability to move on... U get betrayed by a guy or a gal, there is no point trying to remain single claiming all guys/gals in this world are 'b******'... One only becomes stronger with these kind of experiences...U only become wiser while making U choices...Peace!!!
"It seems so difficult (almost impossible) to fulfill the dream called “live happily ever-after”
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-- Looks like tumhara zindagi se poora vishwas uth gaya hai ..
"Break-up happens but the way its done has so deep impact on both the partners."
-- This is mostly b’cuz people dream of things before, things actually get in place..
"Betrayal is not a new story but the way betrayer treats… just think, guy bringing you flowers, chocolates and perfumes. Flatters you and the very next day….. he says its not working between us…. Or a girl saying “I can leave my family for you” and the very next day you see her tying knots with a man of her parents’ choice.
How to trust ?"
--Completely agree with you …
Seen this happen with my college friend.. who finally commited suicide..
That’s it and I lost all the hope in Love
Actually too much streach in pre-marriege relationship can also mess the things for one..
My friend (one girl ) had affair in college with one guy.
Things were not working out fine for them.. As girls parents did’t agree..
Finally both hare split and lost charm in life.
I think, if one has enough of courage to go past the known or upcoming barriers in life has right to fall in love and rest prey to their mamma to find good bride or groom..
arre mahodaya, kripya vistaar me samjhaaiye aapki samasya kya hai
hay, this is possible but not a necessary case.. and these are rare cases which find their ways to the news coz they are rare!
can we conclude from what happened in nithari, happens all around? i am glad that we cant. life has its share of sorrows but there is no dearth of happiness too...
further on, i believe that there are all sorts of people n the world. the question is : which of them do we chose to keep around us. of course it requires a lot of acumen and some learning from mistakes but still isn't world happy? go to any international airport in the world. either at arrival or at departure terminal.. that is one place love is most visible!
Like is as we chose to make it.. dirty then dirty and beautiful then BEAUTIFUL!!! :)
its just a matter of choosing the right person...
coz "its very important to keep expectations in the right place or else one is sure to be disappointed"!
It really hurts ...but never try to get into a loop as to why it happened? that hurts even more.......
There is someone special for every one. If someone betrayed you then say to yourself that "He/she is not worth enough for your love , for your care, for you to be with that person for the rest of your life....lives". One person will be there who will be dying for just a glance of you. A day will come when you will see him/her. He/she may be around right now ....but need to realize ......
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